I always wonder if they actually are a pain to work with.

I've worked from outside the hull speed of several teams and gotten into places where being diplomatic about the sheer propensity to failure was a lot of what I ended up doing. And, frankly, I've just dropped the mic and walked off more than once, once I'd established that the team ultimately just didn't want to perform or had some horrifying external constraint that made the death march inevitable.

Say it with me: "I am powerless over the fact that I suck." At least you can work on the self loathing and make progress.

But seriously - get your ego out of it and life gets better. Let your ego free only when you are alone. You can't fix 'em all.