So, now I fail to understand what people are after. You praise someone for something, it becomes a problem. You don't then its a different problem. You criticize, you get noted for being rude and discouraging.
The key here is to take what is good and beneficial out of a talk and just move on.
Else each social persuasion and thought can ruin your life everytime one hears some one speaking.
So, now I fail to understand what people are after.
The mindset stuff is a scientific result, it's not "after" anything.
Maybe you think you are so strong-willed and independent that you are immune to this effect, but however dumb you feel it is, the majority of people (and kids especially) apparently are not.
The key here is to take what is good and beneficial out of a talk and just move on.
Else each social persuasion and thought can ruin your life everytime one hears some one speaking.