Hacker Timesnew | past | comments | ask | show | jobs | submitlogin

Protip: If you meet me, do not "size up" my wife.

This is homeless-man tier advice.



Yeah don’t fucking pry about my childhood either.


The author has also written a book about it, which probably explains most of the article. That was also the point where I stopped reading it.


Agree that this is poorly worded, and objectifying. But it's trying to get at something real.

Here's another version of the same idea that isn't entirely wrong, and is also reductive and objectifiying, and meant towards assessing men: look at their shoes, their car, and (if they have one) their watch.

Two-door Civic and New Balance joggers? Subaru and hiking boots? Minivan and sandals? Tesla and exotic hi-tops? There's information there.


> Two-door Civic and New Balance joggers? Subaru and hiking boots? Minivan and sandals? Tesla and exotic hi-tops?

There’s information there for sure but not for you to extrapolate on my character. If anything instantly judging someone based on material possessions, signals a pretty weak character to me.


> Subaru and hiking boots

There’s just so many possibilities. You make me curious of what kind of association you derive from that. Especially when shuffling the person’s gender, age, profession, ethnicity, fitness etc.

There was a television game based on that (looking at people randomly chosen on the street and guessing things about them). All the fun was on the baseless biases of the contestants.


I don't disagree, it could be construed as an invitation to a superficial assessment.

The point of the algorithm mentioned in my comment is not that it gives correct results, it's that it's one possible entree into a guessing game, "who is this person?". It's the specificity of the particular items, which provide a definite set of branches for further questions, falsifications, etc.

Many people play the same game, in effect, with "what do you do" (your job), or "where do you live", or "where did you go to high school [college]". I kind of prefer the materialist formulation for a change of pace.


you could have met any of Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, or Warren Buffet, and come away like "what a bad car. what a loser."


richest person I ever met, an ex's dad who quietly owned a ton of automotive stuff, was fond of crocs and hawaiian shirts.

he collected jaguars (the cars) and restored them in his basement basement garage, which had 5 bays.

there is, of course, an argument for counter-signaling here, but I am in agreement with the parent post -- hard to make a judgement based on shoes or cars.




Guidelines | FAQ | Lists | API | Security | Legal | Apply to YC | Contact

Search: