We can agree that someone's character trait may irritate you because it goes against your values or beliefs.
But the irritation can reach maximum intensity if it comes to be a trait:
- you dislike about yourself AND have not accepted [0]
- you've had a "bad experience" with. For example, your abusive mother has said trait
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[0] I think part of why the hate is so intense in this case is that you're forever with yourself; you can't escape; the trait is always there, in plain sight.
We can agree that someone's character trait may irritate you because it goes against your values or beliefs.
But the irritation can reach maximum intensity if it comes to be a trait:
- you dislike about yourself AND have not accepted [0]
- you've had a "bad experience" with. For example, your abusive mother has said trait
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[0] I think part of why the hate is so intense in this case is that you're forever with yourself; you can't escape; the trait is always there, in plain sight.