I don't use AirPods specifically but every pair of ANC headphones I've used all exhibit that pressure that I feel but can't hear. I wish there was a way to dial down the ANC amount for less effective cancellation along with less ambient pressure.
If I really want quiet like on a plane, I'll use non-ANC earbuds with good passive isolation and put a light pair of Bose cancellation headphones with no signal over top.
The Sony XM5 and Nuraphones both offer variable levels of ANC. The XM5s also show the estimated dynamic pressure as you're playing audio in the companion app.
Not nearly enough people talk or are aware of dynamic pressure and how important it is.
By far my favourite headphones are the Ultrasone Signature Pros - they're wired and non-ANC but very low dynamic pressure while being studio quality, truly fantastic headphones.
If I really want quiet like on a plane, I'll use non-ANC earbuds with good passive isolation and put a light pair of Bose cancellation headphones with no signal over top.