The thing with breast feeding is that my wife is soon to go back to work and she will have to pump anyway. So she chose to pump from the beginning (for better or worse). I think I have to be more proactive to her needs and try and do some things differently.
Pumping is fine. Recognize that going to work can be a huge source of stress for Mom due to the degree to which staying at home is often promoted as an ideal for women. Men are not immune to this either, of course. Twelve years on, it remains a source of misgiving for my wife. But at least now it crosses my radar more frequently.
Your wife is the primary caregiver. Be patient. Listen instead of trying to fix. Taking care of her is the hard role with which you have been tasked.
I understand the reasoning here, and the pump is a wonderful piece of technology to make use of, but there's still something very mechanical about pumping. If it's an option, your wife may find it more relaxing to try breastfeeding on occasion.
I don't understand choosing the pump from the beginning... People choose that as a solo option and not an additional means? Is it a nipple thing? | (sorry if too personal, just hacking) Isn't it natural comfort for a woman to breast feed? Brings the connection together? I do not know everything about brains and emotion bit it kind of makes sense, just like making love to her.
