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The best advice I have ever read on the subject is in Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" (1936).

1) Become genuinely interested in other people.

2) Smile.

3) Remember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4) Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5) Talk in terms of the other person's interest.

6) Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

So essentially be genuine, and if you try to do anything intentionally just try to put the other person at ease.



"1) Become genuinely interested in other people."

I'm not sure about the origin of this idea, but I believe it is Ken Kesey... the gist being that charisma isn't so much the ability to get people to like you as the ability to get yourself to like other people.


Dale Carnegie at least popularized it, the book was published when Ken Kesey was a small child. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influenc... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ken_Kesey




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